03 September 2024

Building Confidence with Ease: How I’m Becoming the 3X Version of Myself

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The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Hot Take· 1

Hot Take07:48

Why Jasmine Chooses Full-Strength Authenticity Over a Larger Audience

Jasmine considers whether softening her personality would make the show more broadly relatable, especially across gendered expectations about business communication. She accepts that maintaining her more intense public style may limit audience size, but chooses a smaller aligned audience over changing herself for wider appeal.

Communication styles are judged through gendered expectations.
A more comforting persona might attract a broader audience.
Relatability is not always worth the cost of self-suppression.
A deliberately narrow audience can receive a more authentic product.

“if you were not your three x self, would you be more relatable? I said statistically, probably.”
Jasmine Star · 08:41

“I don't want to be one X to make other people feel more comfortable.”
Jasmine Star · 09:47

#audience#authenticity#positioning#gender

Explainer· 2

Explainer03:43

When Confidence Becomes Armor for an Expected Fight

Jasmine explains that her public confidence developed as psychological armor for entering spaces where she expected to fight stereotypes and exclusion. Her mentor challenges the hidden cost of that posture: continually wearing armor may signal to the subconscious that every opportunity is a battle.

Public confidence can function as protection rather than an effortless trait.
Expected bias can make a defensive posture feel necessary.
A battle mindset may intensify delivery and distance the speaker from the audience.
Confidence can remain strong without treating every situation as combat.

“I look at it like I'm putting on an armor of confidence. Like I wear confidence like a shield. Like an armor.”
Jasmine Star · 03:43

“Because the armor is signaling to your brain, signaling to your subconscious that you're ready for a fight.”
Jasmine Star · 05:44

#confidence#identity#bias#mindset

Explainer21:39

Why the Skills That Reach $100K Break Down at Seven Figures

Jasmine separates business growth into stages with different operating requirements. Dedication can push an early business toward $100,000, while reaching $1 million demands a refined offer and sustainable fulfillment; operating beyond that level requires team support and scalable systems.

Obsession and personal effort can drive the earliest revenue stage.
Growth from $100,000 to $1 million requires offer refinement.
Fulfillment must improve without exhausting the founder.
A seven-figure company cannot be operated successfully by one person indefinitely.
The required team structure depends on the size and needs of the business.

“you can muscle when you're starting your business. You can literally force your way from $0 to $100,000.”
Jasmine Star · 21:39

“The minute you get to a seven figure business, you will have the cold, hard slap in the face of realizing that you cannot run…”
Jasmine Star · 22:37

#scaling#team-building#operations#entrepreneurship

Story· 1

Story01:53

The Gap Between Jasmine’s Private and Public Selves

Jasmine contrasts her reserved everyday behavior with the amplified version she presents on podcasts and stages. The public persona is authentic, but it concentrates her energy and communication into what she calls a “three x version” of herself.

The private self may appear quiet or withdrawn.
A public persona can be amplified without being fake.
Confidence is context-dependent rather than fixed.
Audiences may mistake an intentionally amplified mode for effortless natural ability.

“there is the regular version of me, like the one X version. And then there is the version of me that people see when I…”
Jasmine Star · 01:53

“the way I show up on the pod is really different than oftentimes I feel in real life.”
Jasmine Star · 02:50

#identity#public-speaking#authenticity#confidence