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23 April 2024

Quarter One Review: How I’m “Laying Bricks” to Build Relationships and Open Up New Opportunities

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Hot Take· 1

Hot Take35:16

Stop Calling It Content: Treat Your Work as Documentation and Art

Jasmine argues that ongoing creative output can serve as documentation and proof rather than disposable content. Keeping imperfections in the work demonstrates that progress does not require polished certainty or special gifts. The archive can later show how a business and identity were actually built.

  • Documentation preserves the process behind later outcomes
  • Creative work can be art rather than an algorithmic commodity
  • Visible imperfection makes action feel more attainable
  • An archive can challenge narratives of luck and overnight success

“I am not creating content, I'm creating art.”

Jasmine Star · 35:16

“I'm creating documentation and proof that you could do what you want to do.”

Jasmine Star · 35:16
#content creation#documentation#art#imperfection

Story· 4

Story15:43

What a Tomahawk Steak Taught Jasmine About Commitment

During the Lake Tahoe trip, Jasmine watched her peers organize their eating around a specific protein target. The humorous dinner scene became an observation about execution: once they committed to a number, their behavior followed without prolonged negotiation. She saw everyday routines as evidence of how disciplined people think and act.

  • Specific targets simplify behavioral decisions
  • Commitment becomes visible in ordinary routines
  • Close observation can reveal more than formal discussion

“You're hellbent on hitting a number and then you just do it.”

Jasmine Star · 17:13

“I learned from them how they think and how they act”

Jasmine Star · 18:06
#discipline#goals#behavior#performance
Story18:06

The “Terrible Idea” That Earned a Yes From Leila Hormozi

While listening to Leila Hormozi's podcast, Jasmine developed follow-up questions she believed other listeners would share. She pitched a walking interview that fit Leila's existing daily routine and repeatedly emphasized that she was unattached to the idea. Leila agreed, although weather later canceled the recording.

  • A strong pitch can extend something the recipient already does
  • Visible proof of genuine interest strengthens an outreach message
  • Low-pressure framing makes unconventional ideas easier to consider
  • A canceled execution does not invalidate the original pitch

“Can we have a podcast together where I ask you the follow up questions to your own podcast that I think if I have these…”

Jasmine Star · 19:06

“Could the podcast be you and I walking and it's a walking podcast, so you would be walking anyway.”

Jasmine Star · 19:06
#pitching#podcasting#outreach#collaboration
Story26:24

Jasmine Turned a Q&A Ticket Into a Deliberate Discomfort Test

Jasmine attended a Rob Dyrdek event alone and set challenges beyond merely watching the interview. She aimed to arrive early, secure a front-row seat, ask a public question, and attempt to form a genuine connection despite identifying as highly introverted. The event became a controlled test of behaviors she normally avoided.

  • Growth challenges work better when translated into observable actions
  • Attending alone removed familiar social cover
  • Small logistical choices can become deliberate exposure exercises
  • The goal was a genuine ally, not a superficial contact

“If I'm not uncomfortable, I'm not growing. If I'm not uncomfortable, I'm not expanding.”

Jasmine Star · 27:11

“This was a new opportunity to flex big muscles.”

Jasmine Star · 28:53
#discomfort#introversion#networking#growth
Story29:44

How Maui Became a Turning Point in Jasmine's Adoption Journey

After an unsuccessful adoption placement, Jasmine traveled to Maui grieving and exhausted by years of uncertainty. During repeated early-morning conversations with God, she moved from trying to control the outcome toward accepting either possibility while remaining committed. A month after leaving Hawaii, she and JD learned they had been placed with Luna.

  • Grief followed the loss of an anticipated family placement
  • Repeated reflection helped Jasmine release control of the outcome
  • Acceptance did not require abandoning commitment
  • Returning to Maui with Luna gave the location new meaning

“I'm going to stay committed. And if it happens, it happens. And if it doesn't, it doesn't.”

Jasmine Star · 32:24

“So you sometimes in life we have to like, let go in order to receive.”

Jasmine Star · 32:24
#adoption#grief#acceptance#family

Q&A· 1

Q&A23:32

The Question That Turned a Firm No Into Strategic Exploration

A consulting client asked Jasmine's team to assume responsibility for his company's marketing. She immediately declined because she did not want to build an agency, but his follow-up question—what would it take?—prompted her to examine whether a different structure could make the opportunity worthwhile. She deferred the decision for a month rather than answering before defining acceptable terms.

  • A default business model may not be the only possible structure
  • “What would it take?” converts refusal into constraint discovery
  • A cooling-off period protects against impulsive commitments
  • Exploration does not obligate acceptance

“I, I do not want to build an agency. So my answer was no.”

Jasmine Star · 24:20

“He said, what would it take for you to say yes?”

Jasmine Star · 24:20
#consulting#decision making#business models#opportunity

Takeaway· 4

Takeaway03:27

Inconclusive Podcast Data Revealed Something Better Than a Winner

Jasmine's team analyzed two years of completion rates, episode lengths, formats, and topics but found no decisive top-performing category. Her mentor reframed the flat distribution as evidence that listeners trusted her across guest, solo, business, mindset, and personal episodes. The next research step was therefore to ask the audience what it wanted more of.

  • Flat performance across formats can be a positive signal
  • Balanced consumption suggested host-level audience trust
  • Quantitative ambiguity can require direct audience feedback

“All of our data showed that everybody's kind of consuming the same thing at the same amount.”

Jasmine Star · 04:21

“That means that your audience trusts you enough that when you bring on a guest, if you do something solo, if you do something business,…”

Jasmine Star · 04:21
#podcasting#analytics#audience trust#feedback
Takeaway13:45

The Room You Enter Can Redefine How Big You Think

A three-day gathering with Jasmine's executive-coaching peers exposed her to ambitions and behaviors that exceeded her own assumptions. Their repeated challenge—“but bigger”—showed her that possibility is partly calibrated by the people around her. She followed up with individual calls to understand their thinking more deeply.

  • Peer groups calibrate what feels achievable
  • Exposure to larger ambitions can reveal self-imposed limits
  • Living alongside peers exposes behavior that scheduled calls conceal
  • Follow-up questions convert inspiration into practical learning

“They kept on saying yes, Jasmine, but bigger, and I didn't know until being around them that I was limiting myself to how big I…”

Jasmine Star · 14:42

“It's another thing to sit with him for three days and see how they talk and act.”

Jasmine Star · 18:06
#peer groups#ambition#mastermind#entrepreneurship
Takeaway20:48

Why “Anything Is Possible” Changes in a More Ambitious Room

Jasmine entered a mastermind during an active launch expecting tactical feedback, but the larger benefit was an expanded definition of possibility. Being around people who normalized ambitious plans made unconventional ideas feel executable rather than isolating. The group supplied both practical insight and social permission to think bigger.

  • Tactical meetings can produce strategic identity shifts
  • Possibility is partly defined by social context
  • Ambitious peers reduce the isolation of unconventional plans
  • Real-time feedback is especially useful during active execution

“But then all of a sudden you start redefining what anything means.”

Jasmine Star · 22:38

“I realized that crazy isn't so crazy when you get other people to do it with you”

Jasmine Star · 22:38
#mastermind#possibility#launching#ambition
Takeaway34:11

Can Strength and Relaxation Coexist on a Working Vacation?

Jasmine acknowledged that her Hawaii trip was a “work nation” rather than a complete vacation because she was teaching during March. A conversation with her therapist prompted a more nuanced question than whether she should work or rest: what would strength and relaxation look like when combined? The question invites intentional integration while preserving a future commitment to take a fully unplugged vacation.

  • Work and rest are not always cleanly separated
  • Naming a workcation honestly prevents false expectations
  • Strength and relaxation can be designed together
  • Integrated travel should not permanently replace full disconnection

“She righted me for me to ask and clearly define what does strength and relaxation look like when they're combined?”

Jasmine Star · 34:11

“I will plan sometime this year to to unplug and take a full, formal, complete vacation.”

Jasmine Star · 34:11
#workcation#relaxation#boundaries#therapy