12 March 2024

Restarting: How to Get Back Up When You’ve Quit (And Be Better Than Before)

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Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster12:01

Feeling Judged Does Not Mean People Are Judging You

Jasmine challenges the assumption that shame or fear accurately describes how others view a second attempt. Feelings can suppress action, but they are temporary signals rather than reliable evidence about talent, potential, or external judgment.

Embarrassment can cause avoidance before any external rejection occurs.
A feeling of scrutiny is not proof that scrutiny exists.
Past shame should not become the index for future decisions.
Emotions can be acknowledged without allowing them to dictate action.

“Just because I feel shame about the past doesn't mean that other people are, in fact, shaming me.”
Jasmine Star · 12:01

“Because I'm begging you not to index your life based on feelings, and assume that just because you feel it, it makes it true.”
Jasmine Star · 12:01

#emotions#shame#self-doubt#mindset

Story· 2

Story01:10

The Beautiful Microfilm That Had Nowhere to Go

Jasmine recounts producing a video profile of The Giving Keys despite having no filmmaking experience or distribution and monetization strategy. Multiple shoots produced a well-received video, but she could not explain what it was meant to accomplish or fund, so the larger series ended.

Creative enthusiasm launched the project before its purpose was fully defined.
A missing shot plan required an expensive second production trip.
Positive audience feedback did not establish a viable use or business model.
The cost and unclear vision made repeating the project unsustainable.

“I just did the stuff that really lit me up to begin with.”
Jasmine Star · 02:27

“But was it a business? Was it a hobby? Was it a passion project?”
Jasmine Star · 06:40

#creative-projects#business-model#storytelling#failure

Story07:35

Michael Jordan's Detour Became a Championship Comeback

Jasmine uses Michael Jordan's departure from basketball and subsequent return as an example of resilience after a highly visible change of direction. His return led to three more NBA championships, showing that a failed or disappointing detour does not preclude later excellence.

Jordan left basketball while at the top of his career.
His baseball detour unfolded under intense public scrutiny.
He returned after nearly two years away from the NBA.
His team won three more championships following his return.

“Now, Jordan's comeback just wasn't a return to the court. It was a testament that against the odds, we humans can achieve greatness with a…”
Jasmine Star · 08:39

“It's about finding the strength to get back up after you do, after you decide to stop, after you decide to quit, after you decide,…”
Jasmine Star · 09:49

#michael-jordan#resilience#comeback#sports

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway21:05

Match the Reward to the Type of Win

Jasmine recommends deliberately celebrating meaningful milestones because rewards reinforce evidence of follow-through. She distinguishes monetary from non-monetary wins so celebration supports motivation without undermining financial goals.

Celebrate completed milestones rather than every minor activity.
Use monetary rewards for monetary wins.
Use non-monetary rewards for non-monetary wins.
Choose restorative rewards that refill energy and create reflection space.

“So a little tip here would be to celebrate monetary wins with monetary rewards and non-monetary wins with non-monetary rewards.”
Jasmine Star · 21:05

“So each time you celebrate a win, your doubt will get that much smaller.”
Jasmine Star · 21:05

#rewards#motivation#milestones#habits

Takeaway27:17

Turn Every Episode into One Concrete Action

Jasmine argues that educational content creates value only when listeners act on it. Completing one action after each episode compounds into substantial progress over a year, even when each individual step feels small.

Choose one action from each learning experience.
Repeated small actions accumulate into meaningful results.
Consuming more information is not a substitute for implementation.
Judge educational content by the behavior it enables.

“My goal is that every podcast episode inspires you to do one thing, and the more you listen to the podcast and you do one…”
Jasmine Star · 27:17

#implementation#learning#consistency#action