29 November 2024

Stepping Into Your Next Version [Growth Challenge: Day #5]

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Explainer· 1

Explainer04:39

Stop Measuring the Gap and Start Measuring the Gain

Jasmine explains Dan Sullivan's Gap and the Gain concept as a choice of comparison point. Measuring the present against an ideal future emphasizes deficiency, while comparing the present with the past makes progress visible and provides stronger evidence for future possibility.

Future-based comparison highlights what remains missing
Past-based comparison reveals accumulated progress
Both comparisons require similar mental effort but produce different emotions
Remembering prior gains can restore confidence about future growth

“But it takes just as much energy for you to look at where you are now and look back from where you've come.”
Jasmine Star · 05:38

“I want you to flip the script and say, look at how far I've come.”
Jasmine Star · 05:38

#gap and gain#progress#perspective#confidence

Story· 2

Story01:01

When Constant Work Becomes a Way to Avoid Feeling

Jasmine describes recognizing that her intense work habits were compensating for unresolved experiences from 2022. A solo retreat with therapy, meditation, and yoga created enough distance for her to confront the difference between productive ambition and emotional avoidance.

Socially rewarded behavior can still become an unhealthy compulsion
Busyness can suppress emotions without resolving their cause
Trusted people may notice overwork before the person experiencing it
Stepping away can reveal what constant activity has concealed

“And so I think in today's society, some addictions are celebrated and some addictions are pushed aside.”
Jasmine Star · 01:01

“And I think that the work was substituting me not wanting to address like stuff that had happened in 2022.”
Jasmine Star · 02:03

#work addiction#burnout#emotional avoidance#self-awareness

Story08:23

Why Familiar Audiences May Resist Your Evolution

Friends, family, followers, and colleagues may oppose a pivot because they understand and feel safer with an earlier version of you. Jasmine illustrates this with a follower who wanted her to return to social-media posts and called her newer business content generic, prompting her to accept that not everyone would follow the transition.

Resistance often reflects discomfort with change rather than an accurate verdict
Existing audiences may prefer the category in which they first discovered you
Loved ones may oppose change while believing they are being protective
A new direction does not need universal approval to be valid

“What I have learned is that sometimes people don't want to see you grow and evolve because they fear that change, or they feel threatened…”
Jasmine Star · 08:23

“Not everybody will be for me. But you're going to be sad that you were never with me.”
Jasmine Star · 09:19

#audience resistance#criticism#career pivot#social pressure

Takeaway· 3

Takeaway02:49

Your Worth Is Not the Work You Produce

The retreat helped Jasmine distinguish who she is from what she produces. She argues that output, working hours, and professional success are inadequate measures of personal worth, especially when work has consumed the space needed to think and feel.

Personal worth exists independently of professional output
High productivity can conceal an overly narrow self-concept
Multiple personal roles protect against defining the self through work alone

“I am not my work, and my work is into me, and my worth is not in the work that I do, the work that…”
Jasmine Star · 02:49

#self-worth#work identity#burnout#balance

Takeaway06:22

Let the Vision Outlast Reinvention's Emotional Swings

Reinvention can feel like demolishing something built with years of effort and money, making emotional volatility predictable. Jasmine recommends acknowledging those feelings without allowing them to overrule a durable vision or the consistent small actions required to realize it.

Grief can accompany a necessary professional pivot
Uncertainty weakens the usefulness of familiar logic
Emotions are temporary while a considered vision can remain stable
Small repeated actions are more dependable than momentary feelings

“Emotions change. Facts don't. Emotions are fleeting. My vision isn't.”
Jasmine Star · 07:18

“Emotions aren't as dependable as consistently stacking small actions each day to get to my goals.”
Jasmine Star · 07:18

#reinvention#emotions#vision#consistency

Takeaway09:19

Answer Self-Doubt With Evidence From Past Success

Fear and self-doubt are normal during a transition, but Jasmine argues that they should not become stop signals. Focusing on existing strengths, previous successes, and lessons from setbacks creates evidence that the person can handle another period of growth.

Recognize fear without obeying it
Review strengths and prior successes to rebuild confidence
Treat setbacks as learning opportunities
Growth requires movement before uncertainty disappears

“Instead, I want you to focus on your strengths and your past successes to build confidence in your ability to succeed.”
Jasmine Star · 09:19

“Remember, every setback is an opportunity to learn and grow stronger.”
Jasmine Star · 09:19

#self-doubt#confidence#setbacks#growth