Inside-Out Long Jump
Separate old survival stories from present decisions and step into a new identity
- Difficulty
- Expert
- Time to result
- ~ongoing to results
- Steps
- 6
- Confidence
- 92%
The Inside-Out Long Jump treats overthinking and self-sabotage as signals of older protective stories rather than proof that a present opportunity is unsafe. The process starts with willingness to examine painful beliefs about money, trust, relationships, and responsibility, ideally with qualified support. The person traces a recurring reaction to its origins, acknowledges the younger self who formed that strategy, and pursues whatever resolution is appropriate: conversation, forgiveness, reconciliation, acceptance, boundaries, or ending an unhealthy relationship. When the old narrative returns, it is named explicitly and separated from the present decision. The person then chooses behavior consistent with a new identity, such as trusting a team member instead of reflexively solving every problem. Repeated evidence that the new response is survivable and effective builds self-trust and enables larger decisions.
Origin
Extracted from The Jasmine Star Show, where Jasmine connected her entrepreneurial over-responsibility and fear around money to childhood experiences and described learning to choose a new story.
Core principles
- 01Present bottlenecks can originate in childhood survival stories.
- 02Emotional pain may contain useful information without defining current reality.
- 03Trust grows by facing, naming, and processing old patterns.
- 04Forgiveness, reconciliation, boundaries, and endings are all valid forms of resolution.
- 05A new identity requires decisions that contradict obsolete protective behavior.
- 06Leaders should not keep solving every problem merely because they learned to be responsible.
How to run it
- 1
Recognize the Active Pattern
Notice when a decision triggers disproportionate fear, distrust, urgency, or responsibility. Name the repeated story instead of automatically obeying it.
Pro tip Write down the exact prediction your mind is making.
Watch out Do not dismiss a genuine present-day risk merely because old emotions are also involved.
- 2
Trace Its Origin
Ask where you first learned the belief about money, trust, safety, relationships, or responsibility. Distinguish the original conditions from today's circumstances.
Pro tip Look for patterns established in childhood or repeated family roles.
Watch out Avoid forcing certainty about memories you cannot reliably establish.
- 3
Get Appropriate Support
Work with a therapist or another qualified professional when the material is painful, persistent, or difficult to process alone. Approach the work before a crisis if possible.
Pro tip Choose support appropriate to the issue rather than relying solely on business coaching.
Watch out Do not use an entrepreneurial framework as a replacement for necessary clinical care.
- 4
Pursue Resolution
Have needed conversations, offer or request accountability, forgive where appropriate, accept what cannot be changed, and set boundaries where a relationship remains unhealthy.
Pro tip Define success as acting with integrity, not forcing another person to apologize or change.
Watch out Reconciliation is not required when contact would be unsafe or harmful.
- 5
Separate Past From Present
When the old narrative reappears, identify it as a protective response formed under earlier conditions. Reassure that part of yourself and evaluate the current facts independently.
Pro tip Use explicit language such as old me and new me to interrupt automatic behavior.
Watch out Do not shame yourself for having developed a survival strategy.
- 6
Choose the New Story
Take the action that reflects the identity and role you are now building. In leadership, this may mean allowing another person to solve the problem instead of taking control.
Pro tip Start with a decision that is meaningful but recoverable, then build evidence of self-trust.
Watch out A new story without corresponding action remains only an affirmation.
In the wild
While Jasmine was out of office, a business problem arrived unexpectedly. Her first impulse was to take control, but she identified that response as the old pushing version of herself and asked who in the organization could step up as the next-level leader.
→ She reframed the disruption as an opportunity to develop team leadership rather than reinforce herself as everyone's problem solver.
Jasmine connected the thought that money might disappear to childhood memories of her parents losing their house and cutting up credit cards. She acknowledged the frightened younger version of herself, then instructed herself to make the present decision.
→ The historical fear became information rather than the automatic authority over the decision.
Common mistakes
Calling Avoidance Discernment
An old protective reaction can feel like present-day wisdom unless its origin and evidence are examined.
Demanding Closure From Others
Growth cannot depend on receiving an apology or response another person may never provide.
Keeping Every Responsibility
Continuing to solve all problems prevents both personal evolution and the development of other leaders.
Is it for you?
Best for
It is best for self-aware founders whose growth is constrained by recurring fear, distrust, over-responsibility, or avoidance patterns.
Not ideal for
It is not ideal as a substitute for licensed mental-health care when trauma, safety, or serious psychological symptoms require professional treatment.
From the transcript
“I'm willing to own that. I have a lot of stuff to work through.”
“I began to trust myself”
“long jumping comes from looking from the inside out, addressing what needs to be changed, and then learning how to trust yourself and separate yourself…”
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