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05 November 2019

Fake It Til You Make It? Building A Business Despite Your Doubts

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Explainer· 1

Explainer29:53

Jasmine Star’s Why: Turn Impossibilities Into Possibilities

Jasmine defines a purpose that remains stable even when its business expression changes: empowering people to believe an apparently impossible future is available to them. She argues that inherited examples constrain ambition, so people must move out of their own way and attempt work larger than what they have previously seen.

  • Her mission is independent of any one business model.
  • Apparent impossibilities may conceal actionable possibilities.
  • People often limit ambition to what they have already witnessed.
  • Her purpose is to encourage larger, self-directed dreams.

“I believe that I wake up every single morning to empower people to believe that the impossible is possible for them.”

Jasmine Star · 29:53

“My why which is manifested in different forms in my business will always be the same regardless of whatever business I'm in.”

Jasmine Star · 31:32
#purpose#possibility#mission#self-belief

Story· 4

Story02:20

How a Stranger Became Recognizable in a Crowd of a Thousand

Casey recalls Jasmine recognizing her when she stood to ask a question in a large audience. Jasmine explains that the recognition came from Casey consistently speaking honestly on Instagram Stories, tagging her, exchanging direct messages, and sending personal videos—not from fame or status.

  • Repeated authentic interaction created recognition.
  • Public stories developed into casual direct messages.
  • Personal video messages accelerated familiarity.
  • Warmth and useful contributions can build trust without money or fame.

“And yet you created a personal connection.”

Jasmine Star · 03:31

“And I got to know like and trust you and you want to know what that doesn't cost money and it doesn't cost fame.”

Jasmine Star · 04:00
#relationships#instagram#trust#networking
Story07:25

Why Imposter Syndrome Felt Like a Second Skin

Jasmine connects her persistent self-doubt to growing up as a first-generation Latina, learning to read at eleven, and having no entrepreneurs in her immediate world when she started a business. A background defined by scarcity constrained what she could initially imagine, making imposter syndrome feel deeply embedded rather than occasional.

  • Jasmine is the daughter of an immigrant and a first-generation Latina.
  • She says she did not learn to read until age eleven.
  • She knew no business owners when she decided to start.
  • A scarcity-shaped horizon can make possibility difficult to see.

“I didn't learn to read till I was 11 I didn't know a single person in my entire life when I was 25 years old…”

Jasmine Star · 07:30

“I think that when you, when you come from a land of lack in want, you only ever see the horizon of lack and want”

Jasmine Star · 07:46
#imposter syndrome#scarcity#identity#entrepreneurship
Story27:07

The Three Family Influences Behind Jasmine Star’s Drive

Jasmine names her father, mother, and husband as a combined foundation rather than selecting one North Star. Her father modeled disciplined work, her mother modeled survival against extreme odds, and her husband models quiet care, vision, and attention to detail.

  • Her immigrant father earned citizenship by serving in the Marines.
  • Her father taught her to perform small jobs with seriousness.
  • Her mother survived brain cancer twice and modeled grit.
  • Her husband contributes quiet power, vision, and attention to detail.

“he's taught me everything I know about working hard, about expecting nothing about showing up and doing the smallest job as if it was the…”

Jasmine Star · 27:47

“Everything I know about grit and hutzpah and fight has been because of her”

Jasmine Star · 28:05
#family#grit#work ethic#influence
Story29:53

The Impossible Career That Started Without a Camera

After watching her mother battle cancer, Jasmine concluded that life was short and told her new husband she wanted to become a photographer. She did not own a camera, but the conversation helped her see that the apparent impossibility was not a final barrier and that she was standing in her own way.

  • Her mother’s cancer battle changed Jasmine’s view of time.
  • Jasmine left law school and wanted a different future.
  • She declared an ambition before possessing the basic equipment.
  • The experience became central to her mission of making possibility visible.

“I saw my mom battle cancer and I realized that life was short.”

Jasmine Star · 30:22

“I was the only thing stopping me from becoming the thing I wanted.”

Jasmine Star · 30:46
#photography#career change#possibility#purpose

Q&A· 1

Q&A19:08

A Coach’s Job Is Not to Fix Someone Else’s Doubt

Asked how to put discouraged students back on the saddle, Jasmine rejects the premise that a coach can remove another person’s doubts. A coach can expose the limiting belief, listen, advise, express belief, and offer companionship, but the individual must choose to stand.

  • A coach cannot personally eliminate a student’s doubt.
  • Highlighting the limiting belief is itself valuable.
  • Listening and advice support rather than replace agency.
  • Belief is offered as an invitation, not a rescue.

“It is not your responsibility to fix somebody's doubts.”

Jasmine Star · 19:08

“That's the greatest gift that you can give somebody is I believe in you. I'm standing. Do you want to stand next to me?”

Jasmine Star · 21:35
#coaching#agency#support#leadership

Takeaway· 3

Takeaway19:08

Remove “Just” From the Way You Describe Yourself

When Casey calls herself “just a teacher” from a small town, Jasmine identifies the qualifier as the problem. Removing it turns an apology into a statement of identity and reframes Casey’s background as a source of authority with people who think and live like her.

  • The word “just” diminishes an otherwise powerful identity.
  • Being a teacher is an achievement rather than a limitation.
  • A small-town background creates relevant lived experience.
  • Language can reveal and reinforce limiting beliefs.

“I'm just a teacher from a small town area and I think to myself, if you were just to remove the word, just what would…”

Jasmine Star · 19:16

“I am a teacher. Wow, that's powerful.”

Jasmine Star · 19:44
#language#identity#confidence#teaching
Takeaway20:15

The Only Difference Is Who Decides to Get Back Up

Jasmine warns that negative reviews, personal attacks, and family criticism are inevitable as visibility grows. The defining response is not avoiding the blow but remaining undaunted and choosing to rise after it happens.

  • Public criticism is a matter of when, not if.
  • Greater reach creates more opportunities for negative responses.
  • Resilience does not require pretending attacks are painless.
  • Continuing after the setback distinguishes durable performers.

“It is not a matter of if it's a matter of when somebody will knock the wind out from you”

Jasmine Star · 20:20

“because the only difference between the Victor and the person who lays on the ground is that one decided to get back up.”

Jasmine Star · 21:09
#resilience#criticism#visibility#mindset
Takeaway25:26

Why Simple Caring Makes People Stand Out Online

Jasmine argues that collective progress comes through ordinary acts of care rather than grand gestures. Sending a direct message, responding to a comment, or asking how someone is doing recreates human attention online, where genuine care is unusually scarce.

  • Small online interactions can communicate real care.
  • Responding to messages and comments resembles acknowledging someone in person.
  • Kindness is scarce enough online to be differentiating.
  • The principle applies across gender, race, and nationality.

“And that is such a rare commodity online that you immediately stand out”

Jasmine Star · 25:55
#kindness#community#social media#relationships